tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9003281246885382263.post66813698909144770..comments2022-11-09T01:52:04.118+10:30Comments on Sanity or Bust: The Mess Fairy Lives HereNataliehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11013644060776706268noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9003281246885382263.post-56312901035893598062012-04-25T06:41:18.886+09:302012-04-25T06:41:18.886+09:30I know exactly how you feel! When I talk to 'C...I know exactly how you feel! When I talk to 'Clive' telling him I'm not happy etc etc there is no conversation except for him to tell me that I don't do lawn mowing or whipper snipping!<br />Now... that's a fucking great statement. <br /> If I talked to others about the situation I felt like a nit picking whiner but it was a huge legitimate list of complaints that made me sick to my guts. All about lack of respect to me.<br /> I may be wrong but if you love some one, you do what you can to make life easier and you respect and appreciate them.<br />I don't know what you can do except keep your knickers on! lol. Nah... too tired from doing ALL the chores. Fuck Off!<br />See.. turns me into a real bitch. anyway sweet, good luck.<br />xoLydia La Lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11175566681652761270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9003281246885382263.post-13885106776443661712012-04-22T14:18:43.523+09:302012-04-22T14:18:43.523+09:30You're right! It is my problem... but it is a ...You're right! It is my problem... but it is a problem that really does affect me day to day, my mood, my stress levels, my anxiety. He was a clean person who shared household jobs until I took maternity leave. Now I am "mummy slave". I cannot live with the level of untidiness and filth he is happy to, and I feel very cheated when I am working again but the load is not shared. There are very few jobs I ask him to be responsible for and when he repeatedly does not do them it's me that it affects, not him. He's not the one trying to squeeze more into an already overflowing recycling bin because he has "forgotten" to put it out for six weeks!<br /><br />I think the key problem is lack of respect for me since I was a SAHM for a while. And I am at a complete loss how to address that issue!Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11013644060776706268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9003281246885382263.post-43832950615704979972012-04-22T14:12:57.778+09:302012-04-22T14:12:57.778+09:30I hear you about the bathrooms - managed to guilt ...I hear you about the bathrooms - managed to guilt WM into cleaning those today (praise Jeebus!)Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11013644060776706268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9003281246885382263.post-59867297703922111102012-04-22T14:09:07.720+09:302012-04-22T14:09:07.720+09:30I decided long ago that I wanted a tidy clean home...I decided long ago that I wanted a tidy clean home for ME! Not for him. I don't do his washing unless it's something that will be in the category that I have so anally sorted. The kids learned when they were around 5 or 6 that if it wasn't put in the laundry basket properly, it wasn't going to be washed. I would just mention this individually in a quiet moment. <br />Didn't make a big deal out of it. It worked but not all the time. <br /><br />Can you see yourself in 5 years down the track? What will change?<br />In my case....bugger all except me. I had the 'problem' not him. He was happy in his pile of shit. lol<br />Thinking of you. xoLydia La Lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11175566681652761270noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9003281246885382263.post-21073096064267274322012-04-22T13:13:47.752+09:302012-04-22T13:13:47.752+09:30ahh, yes, my house looked like this too. After hus...ahh, yes, my house looked like this too. After husband kept saying it's a sty he wouldn't actually do anything. Only JUST got the last load of laundry done, nothing is folded yet so that's piled sky high in the sitting room. My bathroom hasn't been touched since Jesus rose again and I'm scared to go in there LOLRosehttp://www.facebook.com/childishenvyx3noreply@blogger.com